Perth resident Louanne Ward took to the She Said, He Said Facebook page to ask her followers what they thought about first date protocol – and whether it was better to be swept off your feet by a potential new partner. “When it comes to the first date, do you like a guy deciding where to go and booking everything? Or would you rather he ask you where you would like to go and choose the venue?’ He said. “When you start dating, part of the romance is when the other person plans dates and makes an effort to close everything without needing feedback. Is it a sign of confidence and part of chivalry? At what point does a fair exchange of scheduled dates take place?’ Its 2,500 members took it in turns to share their view with many saying they would actually prefer it to be a joint effort rather than a one-man show. Perth resident Louanne Ward took to the She Said, He Said Facebook page to ask her followers what they thought about first date protocol – and whether it was better to be swept off your feet by a potential new partner “What a great question to ask. The girl I’m currently dating is an event planner so she’s an ally, I organized our first two dates (casual drinks at the local pub and then Holly Molly Golf) for the second, and then she started organizing the next ones’ . a man answered. “I guess you could say it’s 50/50 between us when it comes to organizing things to do.” Another man added: “My wife loves it when I plan everything until she doesn’t. Sometimes he wants to do it.” Luann responded to the commenter: “We all have different values ​​and things that are important to us. As a woman, she no doubt likes to spoil herself with gestures that mean something to her, but by drawing things she can also spoil you and teach you more about who she is and what she likes at the same time.” Another man added: “My wife loves it when I plan everything until she doesn’t. Sometimes he wants to do it’ (stock image)

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Would you rather a guy plan the first date or work together? 


 A man drawing 120 votes       I don’t mind getting 104 votes involved

An Australian man said he likes to “take the lead” on dates, but warned against choosing “creepy” places like the beach so you can just “feed your eyes”. “Go for a nice meal, even a play and dinner, but do your homework and ask what they like,” he said. One woman said she preferred to be wined and dined by a man and had the “best” experiences that way. “I honor and respect a man who is proactive about this and therefore I have been on the best, most amazing dates when this has happened and I have loved them, yes that is definitely a positive trait for me and a preference, it says a lot that I feel,” he said. Another said: “I like a man who takes the initiative to ask a woman out, however I like to be included in the planning of the date, especially if there is food because there is a lot of food I can’t eat! “The surprise activities are also great. Overall, I don’t think the onus should be on one person to take the lead in organizing every appointment. It’s nice for both parties to do something. I think it shows appreciation for each other.” One woman said she preferred to be wined and dined by a man and had the “best” experiences that way (pictured by Luann)

Why these statements are preventing you from finding your perfect match

Louanne Ward, an Australian dating expert, said that both men and women should not say, “I have no expectations.” He added that the five words inadvertently turn people off in the early stages of dating The matchmaker said there are always expectations when dating, such as their date arriving on time, looking like their photos and being who they said they were “Orange flag statement” could mean your date isn’t emotionally ready for a relationship and that they’re “wasting your time” “I don’t need a man,” was the next statement the matchmaker warned women to stop saying He said that these five words make men lose interest because dating is a game to them and finding their soul mate is their “prize”. While she noted that independent, confident and successful women do not need a man, they may need all the things a man can give, such as support, affection and love.

Previously, Louanne talked about what turns women off on a first date: men who talk about themselves all night. Louanne said a man who only talks about himself can show a lack of confidence and give him a more “feminine energy,” which tends to turn women off. Instead, the dating guru said that dating conversations should be “like a tennis match,” where each person goes back and forth, asking and answering questions to learn more about their date. Louanne said men who talk about themselves all the time cause two “negative reflexes and reactions.”
“Talking about all your achievements and talking about your possessions and all the things you’ve done, you have to do it to try to impress the lady,” he said. “You feel like you don’t bring anything else to the table, that she won’t like you just for you, so you show a lack of confidence, and if there’s one thing that will turn a woman off, it’s someone who doesn’t have confidence.” Second, a man who does not let the woman talk or ask anything about her puts him in a “feminine energy” and she in a “masculine energy.”
“The female speaks and the male listens. While you’re talking all the time, you’re throwing yourself into your feminine energy, which isn’t really a big boost for women,” Louanne said. Luann said to think of a conversation on a date like a “tennis match” rather than a “one-way.”
“On a date guys just remember it’s supposed to be a bit like a tennis match, you hit the ball and she hits it back, it’s not supposed to be one way,” she said.